The beauty of “Thankyou” expression, why we don’t know how to said it?

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Apr 23, 2023 11:14 PM

We always want luxury things, we want expensive things such as cars, house, phone, bag, satchel, clothes, laptop, food, and etc. We always gave people around us with the best what we can gift, as example you want to give someone with what you can afford for. You want to maintain these things with kind of expensive things or kind of precious things you gave to them.

As Human we can’t stop interacting with other people, we always interact with people everyday in ourlives everyday. Even though your job is a remote-working fulltime. Besides what we want, other peoples must be feel the same, they always gift something to us what they can afford.

Things that people gift to us or vice versa is not always about an object, not always an item, sometimes people gift us precious things such as time.

That was just my simple abstraction of though on this opinion,

I love to eat, so on the weekend I always spend some of my time doing Culinary, I love how the ideas how foods can connect each other human, foods can bring joy and happiness. First thing first that I always do when I arrive in a new Country or Places, I always seek what’s their signature foods here. Not just end here, I love to try lots of foods and I eat everything that human can eat! from SME (small-medium-enterprises) restaurant until Michelin Star restaurant or from the cheapest price until the highest price. I always seeks behind the experience on eating those foods, the story, how it mades, and the ingredients that can make this foods so great! I think thats enough for introduction 😂

How did this relate to Thankyou im going to discuss about 😂? Lets dig dive in.

In 2019 I was working as a part-time cashier in small business pizza-place at that time, I need to show my attitude, good expression to handle customers. Our pizza only cost 2$ at that time for a single pizza sliced, not expensive, everyone can eat it of-course. I met lots of customers along the way while working there, things that I aware about the customer come to this place is very various. Since we sell the pizza near where foreigner stay, I met lots of East Asian customer from Japan and Korea, I also met lots of Western customer. I always being polite in-front of them, I always say Thankyou and I always open simple discussion or just a simple phrases to brighten their day also they are very-very polite to us, they show us a gratitude by saying Thankyou, by a simple interraction of that expression. We tend to feel close to our customer, and with that kind of relationship our business growth very very significant by the reason we can retain them to come-back.

But sometimes I experience from some of our customers, both locals and non-locals were not saying Thankyou. I don’t feel hard about this, and I dont really care about it, but here’s the painpoint what I want to talk and what I want to express from it

I know maybe that we don’t act as helpfull for them, especially help their life to get out from something or to get things done for them. But remember, people doing something for you even though it’s a simple task or even it’s their job and you are paying them, as long as you are a human you need to say Thankyou.

As I mention before, I really love Culinary. I eat something that cost 1$ until thousand-dollars, as I observe in my country I tend to met people not saying Thankyou at all. They bought a food, the waiters come and they don’t even say Thankyou, I dont want make things by not saying Thankyou look very problematic in this post 😂 (mention that I want to know people by reading this, saying Thankyou is important). From SME to 5 ⭐️ Hotel most of them still not saying Thankyou, only from the other side say Thankyou only which means the restaurant-side. All of this can happend in everywhere, but I took simplier case on restaurant. By that means our culture is still not aware about how Thankyou can change someones day, or even someones life.

I know it just a simple things but I bet you might not aware about it right? I have write down things that why people not saying Thankyou.

First of all maybe people tend to Unaware about it, sometimes people might not realize or they even FORGET, that they should express gratitude for it! or may not be aware of the impact that their words or actions have on others. I know this is debatable, you might said “maybe they’r tired?” but what if the ones who said Thankyou to you is also tired? Well, this is about our well-being as human.

The second one was the biggest things that affect of saying Thankyou, its a Cultural Differences, expressing gratitude may not be as common or may be expressed in different ways. Maybe some cultures may emphasize indirect expressions of gratitude or show appreciation through nonverbal cues.

Some of you might know that someone show appreciation if they are giving you something, I admire this, but it will hit different if someone saying Thankyou to you because something that very-very simple and then one day they gave you something to show that kind of appreciation. Of course if you do that to the other person, your relationship will get stronger for more further.

There are such other things too, Personal Factor like they are too shy to said thankyou, but I think this can be improved along the way, I hope for the shy-person if you read this, start doing to say Thankyou even it was a simple things to do.

One last factor that I think was a Social Norms, this is really not good ones. They think, Thankyou expression was allowed only or coming out from their mouth when they think its appropriate to say this, or maybe they feel weak or not capable to do something if they say Thankyou 🤔. I know isn’t a complex things, but I really hate about it if people think that saying Thankyou is a hard expression.

Lots of though right? Yeah, Thankyou is the most complicated expression I think, for some people there are LOTS of METRICS just to say Thankyou.

Robert Emmons a professor of psychology at the University of California in his research about Gratitude and its effects on well-being; said that when someone saying Thankyou it will boost their happiness and well-being, I mean it will increases your happiness level on your life. It will help you also to maintain the relationship with them, who might know by saying Thankyou you met someone that will help you in the future? Even-though you just coming to your favorite cafe to spend 1 hour just to drink earl-grey-tea and eat breakfast.

In summary the research said that saying Thankyou have a positive effects number of our mental and emotional well-being, our relationships with others, and our overall behavior. It's a simple yet powerful way to acknowledge the kindness of others and to cultivate a sense of gratitude in our own lives.

I have an experience in 2018, I always come to this place whenever I want to spend 1 hour just to do nothing, by the way it was on Cipete. It was my favorite places. I won’t mention the place, I always ordered their Hot Cappucino. I always saying Thankyou to their staff, whatever things they do to me, or even when I paid the bills for the coffee, looks what happend, I get along with the staff, the owner, and surprisingly their owner had lots off business running through in FnB Industry, we talk a lot until now, we shared ideas and I had a lots of question how he run the business. You know what, It was a pleasure just to say Thankyou, as I mention before. You might not know what happend in the future just by saying this simple expression, and I have exprienced a lots of good things just by saying Thankyou, from the person I met out of nowhere when I got back from the office, security in public places, driver, waiters, colleagues and many more!

I always apply this into my work-related too, even though they only help simple things by such as providing a link that beneficial or non, I always say Thankyou to them.

I practice to express this everyday in my life, when I got wake up, to go the offices, having lunch, working, and back from the office to go home, I never not met a single person, and I always say Thankyou to them, I want they feel how they were precious to the other life’s even it’s really-really simple. I want everyone, feel connection with me when I said Thankyou, I want they feel the happiness of being appreciated by the other.

By hearing Thankyou from me, overall I want to promote the ideas of well-being connection and satisfaction of interacting between human, both for the person who gave it and the person receiving it.

I hope this post, not stopped here. I want everyone can shown their gratitude to other wellbeing, I want everyone feel the happiness of it, because happiness is the key to fullfilling of life and it can be achieved by simple expression Thankyou.

Thankyou for reading my opinion, I hope this not stopping on me, let’s spread the happiness and the beauty of “Thankyou”!